Charon's Blog

My mother made her unexpected transition at the end of 2018; it rocked my world. I was 8 months pregnant with Niko and teaching full-time. I can recall driving to Cleveland with my sister to see her at rehab after having back surgery. We were so excited to see her and hoped she would come home soon. We arrive d home only to discover she had passed away while we were driving. Talk about shock. There are no words to describe that moment. What started out as a 3–4-day trip to be with our mother turned into a 1–2-week trip of planning for her memorial. It was exhausting and so surreal. Our daughter Layla was flying back to see her and ride home with us. I was dreading picking her up from the airport only to tell her “Grandma passed away.” She was heartbroken, as we all were. She ended up with a flare-up that had her in a wheelchair when we finally left to go home after the funeral. I knew it was the stress and grief that caused it. We were all so very heart broken. My mother meant so much to so many people and she was the backbone of our family. She had a presence and energy that was very calming and reassuring. I had no idea what life would look like without her. She told me one of the reasons she was getting the surgery was so she could still hold and be active with her grand babies. After all, she was a great grandmother. Very involved and present with all of my births and all of them. Yet, I knew life had to go on. I was 8 months pregnant, still working, and still had 4 other children to care for. My husband, Mark, was there for support and I’m not sure what I would’ve done without him. What I do know is that I had no idea of how to grieve the unexpected loss of my mother while also welcoming the expected arrival of Niko. I remember sharing this with one of the midwives. My heart was shaken, but I knew staying healthy in the midst of his arrival was of the utmost importance. As the weeks went on, I cried. A lot. I cried at my Dr.’s appt, I cried for no apparent reason sometimes. I would’ve been outside in nature, but I ended up spending a lot of time home due to sciatica pain leading up to Niko’s birth. I had an amazing birth. Niko was born with a true knot in his cord, and I couldn't help but wonder if my mother passing away had to happen for him to be born. You see, true knots are rare, and babies often don’t make it due to the knot pulling on the cord and cutting off oxygen to the baby. He never was active inside of me and now I know why. If he would’ve been doing too much in there he might not be here. (Now he won’t keep still) After his birth, it took me a while to recover. I was in great shape and health when I got pregnant with him, but I gained a lot of weight with him. (He was the biggest of them all over 8 pounds) I was also still grieving. So, we ate out a lot and I didn’t work out like I normally would’ve. I went back to work 4 months after he was born. Although, I 1000 percent wasn’t ready too. You see, life goes on. But, for me life was at somewhat of a standstill. I went through the motions, but there was this huge piece of me that was still in a state of shock. I went to counseling but didn’t even stay in that too long. The sessions I went to were helpful, but it became a lot with everything else we had going on. It was sometime towards the summer and fall of 2019 that I began to play my singing bowls more often. I would grab a singing bowl, go to the park, and just play. This time outdoors playing my bowls became a sanctuary for me. I started having midnight sessions at home as well. People would walk by at the lake and tell me thank you for playing. I miss those moments. This is also around the time I decided to resign from my job, attend midwifery school, and start eclectik5healing. I resigned in December of 2019. Right before Niko was turning one. Looking back, I can now speak to how sound therapy has impacted my life and assisted with grief. Since my mother's passing, there have been several more very important people in my life that have transitioned. Some a little older and some still rather young. Yet, in the midst of it all, I am still here. More importantly, I am healthy and in sound mind. At that time, I wasn't aware that every session was healing me. Every sound, every frequency, every tuning fork, drumming session, and every tear shed while doing it, was a release of some sorts. I recall a family member asked me if I thought it helped (because they thought it did from observing) and I hadn’t really thought about it. I wasn't doing it for results. I was doing it, because I felt guided to. After much reflection I know it is a resounding yes! There is something about frequencies and sound that realigns, grounds, and centers you. I am so grateful for the first singing bowl I ever bought at a store right around the corner from my mom’s house. I used to play singing bowls and read about frequency healing in her basement. Little did I know that moment was preparing me for what was yet to come. I know from experience sound therapy has the ability to assist in healing the body and mind. The ability to assist with grief, anxiety, and that feeling of being overwhelmed. I know, because it did just that for me. Every ring, every tune, and every tear shed was healing me in ways I could’ve never imagined. All of this happened without my awareness that it was taking place. At that time, I wasn't doing it for healing. I was doing it, because I wanted to and enjoyed it. I was outdoors playing at the lake-just because. No strings attached, deadlines to make, counseling sessions, or clients to get. Just me, nature, and sound. Sometimes, I think we make healing way more complicated than it has to be. Our body will guide us towards what is necessary for our healing. All we have to do is listen. The best advice I can give is to tune into you. In Tune, Cha’ron💕

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